Face-to-Face
Yesterday was our face-to-face, and I wish I could say that it was just wonderful and that everything feels so good, but I can't. It was confusing, sometimes I felt everything was going good and other times I felt like things were not going to well. It was really hard to get a feel for what B was thinking. I left feeling really confused. I don't know how B feels about us at this point. I hope she still feels okay about us, but I just don't know anymore. If she is uncomfortable with us, I would rather we found out know than later. We should find out more when Hannah gets a chance to talk with her this week and she is going to ask her straight out about how she feels.
So basically this is how the day went. First we got up and left home around 7:30 in the morning. After a long drive we met Hannah at the office about 1:30pm. We then drove with Hannah to B's apt. Hannah told us this was a first, that she had never done a face-to-face at the bmom's home. LDS FS got her into a nice apt, and you would never know that she was struggling so much financially when you walk into the apt. Everything was really good at first, besides feeling a little awkward. We met her boyfriend, but he is not the father of the baby. Although many times he acted like he was. He is the father of the boys. We talked for a while. Her youngest boy was taking a nap and the other two were outside playing. They eventually came in and we met them. One of them hugged us right away when he came in, which was so cute. They were both really interested in the stuff we had. We had brought some photo albums and B looked through them. She also showed us an album she had. This whole time we were just talking about many different things and sometimes it felt good and positive and other times it felt awkward and weird. It was really hard to tell what she was thinking a lot of the time. She was open to us about a lot of stuff, but it felt like she really didn't trust us very much. We eventually pulled out the gifts we brought and all the boys loved that. All the boys loved what we brought, and B was happy with what we had brought for her too. Her mom was supposed to be there, but did not show, so we left what we brought for her mom with B. We stayed for about 2 hours and then we left.
Afterwards we talked with Hannah about how we felt, and how are biggest concern was that we did not think she really liked us. Hannah told us that she would talk with her about us, and ask her how she felt and let us know afterwards. It is hard to know how to feel right now. I was so hoping for a better experience. Hopefully I will know more when Hannah calls.
So basically this is how the day went. First we got up and left home around 7:30 in the morning. After a long drive we met Hannah at the office about 1:30pm. We then drove with Hannah to B's apt. Hannah told us this was a first, that she had never done a face-to-face at the bmom's home. LDS FS got her into a nice apt, and you would never know that she was struggling so much financially when you walk into the apt. Everything was really good at first, besides feeling a little awkward. We met her boyfriend, but he is not the father of the baby. Although many times he acted like he was. He is the father of the boys. We talked for a while. Her youngest boy was taking a nap and the other two were outside playing. They eventually came in and we met them. One of them hugged us right away when he came in, which was so cute. They were both really interested in the stuff we had. We had brought some photo albums and B looked through them. She also showed us an album she had. This whole time we were just talking about many different things and sometimes it felt good and positive and other times it felt awkward and weird. It was really hard to tell what she was thinking a lot of the time. She was open to us about a lot of stuff, but it felt like she really didn't trust us very much. We eventually pulled out the gifts we brought and all the boys loved that. All the boys loved what we brought, and B was happy with what we had brought for her too. Her mom was supposed to be there, but did not show, so we left what we brought for her mom with B. We stayed for about 2 hours and then we left.
Afterwards we talked with Hannah about how we felt, and how are biggest concern was that we did not think she really liked us. Hannah told us that she would talk with her about us, and ask her how she felt and let us know afterwards. It is hard to know how to feel right now. I was so hoping for a better experience. Hopefully I will know more when Hannah calls.
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