More info about the potential birthmother considering us

Well, curiousity got the better of me, so I emailed our SW to find out more about this potential birthmother. He emailed me back and told me that she is AA (already knew that) and she is having twins (knew that) one of each gender (didn't know that). She is not a member of the church, they do not have any information on the Birthfather. She is due in April, but expect her to be induced in March. They do not have her medical history yet, but the babies are looking strong and healthy on ultrasound. It was just so nice to hear more about her, and I am even more excited about it. I don't know how many other couples she is considering, and I really shouldn't be too hopeful, but I just can't help it. One thing that I mentioned to Brother Watson, was that it was hard not to be hopeful about this situation since it is the first time that we have been considered. He assured me that we have been considered many times by other birthmoms. So I suppose he does not tell us when we are being considered, he must of just told us this time because he had some questions for us. I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing. It is nice to know we are being considered by potential birthmothers, but at the same time, if we have been considered by many, why have we not been matched yet. I am not going to worry about that now though, we will just wait and see how this situation turns out and I can continue to be hopeful about it.

Yesterday we had the opportunity to be a part of Sister Reed's presentation about LDS FS. She was actually presenting in our ward this time, and many of the members of our ward already know that we are trying to adopt, but it was still good. Of course, I did not realize how difficult it would be for me to bear my testimony about adoption and not become emotional. I really don't even know what I said. We only had five minutes, so only I spoke this time. I am so grateful for adoption, and even though we are being a part of the presentation to help us find our baby, I know that I would want to keep doing it, even after we are placed. I think more people need to know about adoption and what LDS FS can offer birthparents.

We are being considered

I am so excited. We received a call today from our SW saying that we are being considered by a potential birthmother. This is the first time he has told us this. He has told us before that we were going to be shown, but not that we are being considered. I know it doesn't mean it will happen with this potential birthmother, so I am trying not to get my hopes up too high, but I am so excited still. The only thing that we know about the potential birthmother is that she is AA (African American) and she is having twins. We don't even know when she is due. We will just have to wait and see what happens, but I just can't help but be so excited about this.

We received an email from a potential birthmother

I cannot believe how exciting this is to me, even though it might not lead anywhere. I check certain message boards regularly where potential birthmothers can post to adoptive couples, letting adoptive parents know of their situations and also telling adoptive parents what they are looking for in an adoptive couple. Adoptive parents can in turn email the potential birthmothers and see what happens. Most of these dear potential birthmothers are overwhelmed with the response they receive after making a post, and therefore are usually not able to respond back to everyone. I have emailed a number of potential birthmothers that I have found this way and have never received a response, until now. The response was something like this, she had not yet decided what she was going to do, but that she appreciated our email and when she had thought through her feelings and made a decision she would let us know. I think she must be a very thoughtful person as she took the time to respond to us, it sounded as if she was trying to email everyone that had responded to her. So as excited as it made me to receive the email, it may not lead to anything and I am okay with that. It just makes me feel like things are happening and that is good, it makes the waiting a little more easier.

I still am trying to think of some ways that we can get our name out to people here in Starkville. School started today and I hope I might be able to find some places on campus to place our cards or possibly make a flyer to put up somewhere. We are hoping to go visit another ward in our stake this month with Sister Reed, if that works out we will be able to meet more people in our stake and let them know of our desire to adopt. Also next month there is a Parenting Conference that our stake is doing, and we are planning to attend. This will count towards adoption training and it will also be a good way to let others know in our stake of our desire to adopt. Hopefully this will help things move along faster.

The new year is here.

Wow, it is actually 2006. That is just amazing to me. Time really does just fly by. The holidays were wonderful. We were able to go home to SL and see everyone. I cannot believe how much I missed being home. I was really surprised at how homesick I had been and didn't even realize it until I went home. I really do hope we get to move closer to everyone soon, but if it doesn't happen I will just have to make more visits. A whole year without going home was just too much.

Another amazing thing to me is that it is very possible that this is the year that we will become parents. I know that it may not happen, but I am hoping it does. I am actually surprised at how much hope I have that it will happen this year. The best possible thing to happen is for our baby to come before this summer so we won't have to transfer or update any of our paperwork if we end up moving. For some reason I think it will happen by this summer, but a part of me doesn't want to be too hopeful. I have been so hopeful so many times before when it came to growing our family, and it hurts too much when it doesn't happen. Yet still I can't help but be excited and hopeful that our time to be parents is very soon.

So many family and friends that received our Christmas newsletters and cards expressed to us their desire to help us find our baby. Many people now know of our desire to adopt and have the means to spread the word. We sent out pass-along cards in all our letters so that people can easily give out our information. Becky and Kevin did the same thing and so now many people have our information to share at their fingertips. I also need to start thinking of making ourselves more known here in Mississippi. I am thinking of finding some places on campus to put up a flyer or something. I have until the 18th before school starts, so I should have plenty of time to think of some more things to do to make sure we find our baby soon.